Legality and comparison to prostitution
There is debate about whether this practice can be considered prostitution, i.e., purchase of intimate attention, sexual or otherwise. In an article from Deutsche Welle, the CEO of SeekingArrangement denied that the site played host to prostitutes and their costumers, saying that “escorts and their clients are never welcome on our sites”. One woman who used the site made it clear that she didn’t want to sell sex, and that she didn’t see herself as an escort.
Having sex in exchange for money is considered prostitution, and is illegal in almost all of the United States, and in many other countries. So in most areas of the world, you cannot pay a woman to have sex with you.
However, it is not illegal to have sex. It is not illegal to give a woman money, or buy her presents, or dinner. It is not illegal to do any of these things, and also have sex with her. You just can’t pay her for having sex. This country is still Draconian, in this sense, and I won’t go into the reasons for this nonsense at this time, but you do have to have an understanding of about how you approach having sex, and providing gifts, or money to the woman.
So, how can this situation be handled? You are able to give her an allowance. Any person can give money to any other person. And those people can be with each other, spend time together, eat dinner together, and have sex together.
So you cannot pay her to have sex, but you can giver her an allowance, and she can spend time with you. And if she agrees, you can have sex with her. All of this is legal, and of course, it must always be consensual. But sex is not a “requirement” of the relationship. You are allowed to think that if she does not have sex with you, she will not get the money and you can end the relationship. You just can’t say it to her, or anyone else. Besides, if sex is something that you want in the relationship, and she isn’t willing to fuck you, move on. Simple.
Seeking Arrangement spokesperson Brook Urick says, actually, that’s not what the company is about.”It’s different than being given money for sex, because a sugar daddy is not going to pay your tuition and pay for your apartment because you had sex with them,” she says. “That’s not how it works, unfortunately. It’s because of the relationship. A sugar daddy is going to be generous to somebody he cares about and somebody who cares about him.”
Urick goes on to say, ” Seeking Arrangement is all about relationships; in fact, relationships “on your terms” is its tag line. But even Urick acknowledges, “Most of them are romantic, and if they are romantic, they are usually intimate.”
Mariah, a sugar baby says, “I think of it as a relationship, and if you’re into a relationship like with a boyfriend, you guys go on dates, you guys do things for each other, he buys stuff, you guys buy things for each other,” Mariah explains. “It’s just different because this person has a more money.”